Friends and family, although well-meaning, soon become bored and uneasy with your constant moaning and whining. And face it, you are moaning and whining! They get frustrated when they have offered you their opinions and advice, and you chose to not follow it. Unfortunately, their well-meaning opinions are usually, ‘he was such a jerk - get over him, already!’ or ’she was a liar and a cheat - you can do so much better!’
Unfortunately, some people going through a painful break up will seek for temporary solutions to kill their pain. These can be very self-damaging and harmful methods such as drugs, alcohol, or even a one-night stand. Some will (I, for one) even go as far as getting emotionally addicted to their grief - using it as a sort of ‘rebound relationship’. Depression is also very common.
Recovery shouldn’t be yours alone to handle. Counselling, therapy, and recovery groups are available to help you. Our very own Lifted Hearts Community (http://liftedhearts.com) and Breaking Up Net (http://breakingup.net) are great recovery support groups that connect you with others who are either going through the devastation of a break up, on the road to recovery, or well past the bridge and have happily and thankfully fully recovered and moved on. Our communities there, and our support boards, will help you along the way, pointing out and identifying rough bumps on that road and holding your hand all the way.
Lifted Hearts Community (http://liftedhearts.com) and Breaking Up Net (http://breakingup.net) are available to you as encouragement throughout your troubled times, and as a life-long friend forever after that. Your neighbors there provide unprecedented support and guidance, along with insightful techniques and tricks for overcoming your heartache. Add a huge dose of compassion and understanding and that’s what makes up our wonderful communities. We know the agony of losing someone you love.
